It’s not always easy to speak positively to yourself and 100% believe in your words. You want to, but often your rationalizing self kicks in.
So when I read about this neat little trick of adding a “but” to your sentence, I tried it out and loved it! It converts your negative thoughts into positive ones, while keeping it realistic. Magic really.
Here’s an example from the article, “I feel I will never lose weight” becomes “I feel I will never lose weight, but I know there are other people who used to be exactly like me and made it happen!”
And some more examples:
“I don’t want to get up this morning” becomes “I don’t want to get up this morning, but if I get up now I could relax a little longer over my coffee.”
“I don’t feel like going out tonight, but maybe I’ll meet someone new and interesting.”
Check out the article, “How to train your brain to be happy” by Maria Brilaki, and add a “but” from now on.
We’ve all been there… pen poised above the paper, hands hovering over the keyboard, brow slightly furrowed… what do I write?
Well, here are some tips for saying thanks like you mean it.
Tip 1: Be specific
Focus only on the thank you and don’t make it about anything else. There are so many other ways you can use to talk about the other stuff going on in our life. Make this especially about the thanks.
Tip 2: Be sincere
Close your eyes and think for a moment – why are you saying thanks? Did you get awesome advice, a thoughtful gift, or help when you needed it? Find that genuine reason and then say it, simply and sincerely.
Tip 3: Add a special detail
This is the extra touch to show how this person, place or moment has affected you. If you got a gift, say how you are using it. If you got great advice, say how it helped you. If you had a special moment, write about it so you can relive that awesome feeling whenever you read it.
Check out these examples:
Thanks, May, for the cute little photo frame. It’s found a home on my fireplace mantel, holding a picture of my 2 favorite people.
Thanks, Jon, for your amazing interview tips. Feeling so much more confident now.
Thanks, gorgeous sunset, for appearing to brighten up my mundane drive home from work… reminded me that life is good.
Thanks, Lauren’s Cafe, for those warm, thick hot chocolates that never let me down.
Thanks, Arjun, for showing your grit and pushing through. I bet it feels great to ride your bike without training wheels. Well done!
So what are you waiting for? Go make someone smile…